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I’m a plus size woman, and I celebrate my body to the best of my ability.  I also encourage other plus size women to embrace themselves.  What I don’t understand is why there seems to be so much anger and hatred toward our thin counterparts.  I see posts on
Facebook dogging thin women and describing them as less than women because they don’t have “curves.”  The term “real women” has been misused and I’m guilty of it too.  How did we get here?  Didn’t we start this revolution with the intention of feeling better about ourselves?  When did we decide that tearing down others was a good way to do it?  I’m publicly declaring that I disagree with this tactic.  I’m sure the media is eating up this bullshit.  I can see the headline now: “Fat Women Destroy Thin Women in Hateful Display of Rivalry.” 

I understand the struggle that plus size women have gone through to be recognized as

beauty equals in the media.  It’s real and it’s valid.    But what I also see happening is a case of oppressing the oppressor—a dangerous game in which victims use the same sickening tactics their intimidators used against them to feel better about themselves.  Do we not see the sheer insanity in this twisted charade?  I would challenge you to think about what you choose to share on social media.  I think it’s great to see examples of diverse women in media who don’t represent traditional standards of beauty.  We are trying to change the landscape of what is available to us, and we’ve done a good job, and there is much further to go.  But in the meantime I pose the following to you:

  1. Many thin women we see in the media suffer from poor body image, even if we don’t hear about it. We don’t need to make things more painful for them by being hateful.  That’s just stupid. 
  2. Thin does not equal the enemy.
  3. Some women are naturally thin.  Get over it.
  4. The term “Real Woman” should be extinguished.  Unless of course we use it to describe women who are doing good in the world, lifting up others and making useful contributions.  
  5. Breed positivity and be an example of love and acceptance in the world.  Your daughters, sisters, mothers and aunts will thank you for it.

I hope this article stirs up lots of discussion.   Let’s talk about it.  Share your thoughts and remember not to tear down others in the process. 

Peace and blessings,

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