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Hi.

Welcome to my blog. I talk about body positivity, style, inspiration, social justice, and whatever the hell else is on my mind.

The Right to Take up Space Part I

I have the right to take up space. I have the right to spread out and make myself visible. And at 5'-8" and 230 pounds, you'd think it would be easy. But it's not.

Women have been taught to make themselves small and invisible in a myriad of ways. These are just some of the ways in which we are encouraged not to take up space.

  1. Be thin and shut up.
  2. Don't be too loud or vulgar -- it's not feminine.
  3. Think before you speak. You might offend someone.
  4. Don't be too smart or no man will like you.
  5. Don't be too aggressive or you'll be perceived as a bitch. 
  6. Look at these ads with thin models and use all your energy to try to look like them. You never will, but keep trying anyway. That way you don't have the energy to engage in conversations about the oppression you are experiencing.
  7. Don't be too emotional if you want to be successful in business, because people will think you can't handle the job.
  8. Wear clothes that you find uncomfortable and restrictive so you can reinforce the idea that your worth is measured by how you appear to others.
  9. Tell your daughters it's their fault when they are sexually assaulted or get unwanted attention from men.
  10. When you're sitting on an airplane, bus or train, keep your arms and legs crossed, being sure not to demand any space.

men taking up space

I watched this amazing poetry performance by Lily Myers, and it resonated with me very deeply. Let me know what you think.

The next post will be about how you can start taking up as much space as you fucking well please. 

How have you been taught not to take up space?  Leave your comments below.

In solidarity,

Pia

The Right to Take up Space Part II

Mercury is in Retrograde -- And Just in Time